A Few Good Men

Women are from Venus and men from Mars....yep, we've all heard that and my goodness is it true. We are so different and we desperately try to understand each other. As women we vent about men and discuss how puzzled we are by their actions and language. We blame them for so much because its so much easier to do that than just admit our own faults. I'm not saying men are perfect because they are humans and being human is just proof of being imperfect. What I am saying is that we as women must examine ourselves firstly!

So a few weeks ago my dad told  me that I should write a post on relationships. I thought that was a good idea but seriously, who am I to write about that? I'm young and never been married- been kissed, just not married! The relationships I have been in are few and far in between so naturally I felt as if I had nothing to say. But today, I have plenty. Not because I suddenly had an impartation of relationship experience but because I have learned a few lessons the past few weeks. This is just me writing a review of what I've learned in this class called Relationships 101 and Time and Experience are my instructors.

This class was one of the first I picked out for my life schedule. It was so appealing. It awakened all five senses and I knew I wanted to take it right away. I knew plenty of other people already taking the upper level courses and seemed to be doing well so I was in! Plus, the course was required so no sense in waiting! At first the class was super easy! We learned how to attract those we were interested in by our physical beauty and outer appearance. That was easy. We learned how to flirt and "be cute". Yep, those assignments were cake. The hard parts didn't come until later. How to be trustworthy and truthful even when it hurts were just the beginning. I mean we were taught how to talk to a man-never insult him or belittle him. Topics like being a nag were hard for some to swallow. What really got everyone was being faithful! Boy did so many fail that test ...and all that was required was to deny oneself. As you can see our instructor Time gradually escalated the topics and whenever we would fail a test Experience helped us to not make the same mistakes on the makeup test.

As for the women in the class, many of them had a hard time admitting their own mistakes on the tests. Some refused to take a makeup test and insisted on an entirely different one to prove their knowledge on the subject. Now I'm not saying that I was never one of those women but I am saying that I glean from Experience and try to correct the mistakes I made on the last test.

In the past several weeks, I've seen so many women dog men out. No matter the situation, the man has been the cause. Yes, it is true that I've been in few relationships, never been married and its known that I have no "baby daddy". So I'm sure that some of the emotions that women in these shoes face I have never felt. But I have another instructor-God. And in his word I have learned that blaming someone is not right. We are to forgive those who offend us. And before we try point fingers we need to FIRST remove the plank in our own eye! We are to love EVERYONE and to love means to be kind, patient, long-suffering, forgiving and holding no record of wrongs. I understand that we as women have fragile hearts and are hurt easily but understand so does a man. No matter if he left you or even left his children- he should not be bashed over the internet or any other form of communication. Pray for him, forgive him and love yourself! Ladies, if you do have a man, uplift him in prayer, in deed and with your words. If you have a problem talk it out, don't nag! And before you make a decision think about it because it affects him as well. Keep God first and love with all your heart!

Same to the men. And remember that a woman needs attention- so be sure to give it to her. Let her know you love her, because if she doesn't get it from you she'll get it from someone else.

Look, I am still learning everyday and I am thankful for a mother who has taught me well and a father who has showed me what a good man is. And thank God for a godly man in my life who is patient with me cause I'm definitely not perfect!!

So tonight before you close your eyes let your s/o know how much they mean to you. And make a decision to LOVE GOD'S WAY! xoxo

p.s.- to all you ladies who keep wondering...yes- there are still a few good men out there!